[ Tuesday, June 26, 2007 ]

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Comment by  The Saturnyne, at June 28, 2007 3:10 am  :

Maan... that made me sad.

One of the best and most moving blog posts i read in a long time, my friend.

Sleep well, Grandma Starbuck.

S.x

Comment by  Starbuck, at June 28, 2007 6:25 pm  :

Thanks, Saturnyne.

I got quite moist-eyed writing it.

It was a real relief writing it, however - expressing some proper pure emotion. There's stuff bottled up that can never be vented round here. Sometimes you need the release of sharing.

(By the way, I tried to pop round your virtual-place the other day, first chance I'd had in absolutely ages to do some blog-reading, and then life got in the way. Make sure the kettle's on the boil for next time...)

Comment by  Aiden Truss, at June 30, 2007 11:20 am  :

Sorry to hear about your Grandma...

I was reading Alan Bennett's 'Untold Stories' recently. He writes about his own mother afflicted with dementia and living in a care home. He'd sit there for hours holding her hand with her oblivious to him but with the occasional flickers of memory and understanding that you mention. He also talks of trying to make eye contact with her before he left each time - trying to make some connection and to let her know that he'd been there.

I'm glad you got your moment...

Comment by  Anonymous, at July 01, 2007 8:10 pm  :

that's such a beautiful post - rest in peace Grandma S.

Comment by  Starbuck, at July 02, 2007 5:58 pm  :

Thank you both.

And I might so easily not have had my chance to say goodbye. As has happened with previous family bereavements I think that my family try to protect me, with the very best intentions of course, and its more by chance that I am around when a visit is being made.

Its good to make your peace, to say your piece.

Comment by  3rd daughter, at July 06, 2007 2:47 pm  :

i'm so glad the last words i said to my gran were 'i love you', even though she was not conscious at the time. she waited until 5 minutes after we left the hospital to quietly slip away.

night night, grandma starbuck.

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